Advice Column: Ask a Guy Who Completely Misses the Point

July 14, 2015 | By | Reply More

Q: Dear Guy Who Completely Misses the Point…My husband and I have been together for nineteen years, married for sixteen. We have three wonderful children, who we both love dearly. We started having problems about two years ago when I found a slightly racy text message exchange between him and a co-worker. He swore that nothing was going on, and I believed him, but I couldn’t get over the fact that he felt that he had to go to someone else for some excitement. Although we’re okay in general, there is an underlying awkwardness there. I booked a trip for the two of us to Bermuda in November, but I am nervous about the two of us being alone together. I’m afraid we’ll get into deep discussions about things I don’t want to explore. Am I burying my head in the sand? Am I in denial?



A: Tauna…Bermuda? In November? That’s not a good idea and I’ll tell you why. Open Google Maps and look up Bermuda. It is at the same latitude as North Carolina which, although not as bitterly cold in winter as, say, Boston, is not as toasty as Aruba. Bermuda is fantastic in summer, albeit a bit expensive, and lacking a decent nightlife, but in the winter it does not get as warm as you think it will. It is sub-tropical, not tropical. To be honest, I’d look at other Caribbean properties, instead. In fact, there are Web sites that list timeshares at dramatically discounted prices, as the current owners are unable to use them in a timely manner. Aruba, the Caymans, the Virgin Islands…all offer superior experiences in November. Tauna, forget Bermuda. It’s fantastic, but just not when you need it to be. Good luck with your marriage!

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